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Crikey I've almost had it up to here...

Journal Entry: Tue Jul 27, 2010, 10:47 AM
I kind of need your help, gals/guys- especially to those of you who get a lot of comments, faves, notes, etc.

I've had various creepers/stalkers sending me messages, and I can handle that simply by ignoring or blocking. However, I occasionally get people who become really, REALLY obsessive (not in the perverted way) and they won't stop sending me messages. Some, absolutely massive messages which I just don't have the time to reply to!
The messages are now starting to get out of control now that I'm not as active on DeviantArt as I used to be, and they start flaring up whenever I don't reply. It's really scaring me and I have no idea how to handle it. I try to be polite, and at first I even tried to be friends, but things get weirder and weirder by the day until I really feel like I just can't take it rationally anymore.

Some of these people sound like they have some mental issues (and I mean that in the most respectful possible way, not "OMG THEY'RE CRAZY")- some have even admitted their problems to me. But I am just one girl, a stranger on the internet who submits cutesy artwork for people to look at. I am not a miracle worker, nor someone who has the magical ability to be friends with everybody.

I could just block them, but that would be so cold!! They're nice people, really I'm sure they are, but I just can't handle it.
What can I do? :(

I deeply apologise if this journal sounds disrespectful or like a drama-magnet; that is not my intention.

Love,
Peachie :orange:
xoxoxoxoxox

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:iconartmaker333:
ArtMaker333 Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2010  Hobbyist Digital Artist
u could disable the comments on the art if it gets worse .. .
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:iconthedauphine:
TheDauphine Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2010
Sorry to hear that. :(
Try saying that you are not on DA a lot and can't always reply.
Hope it works out :hug:
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DazyCat Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2010  Hobbyist
I feel bad for you.
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bigteds-lollypops Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2010
if its okay with you, mabe if a big one comes up again can you send me a message showing me what it says? And send me a link to their page please. And do not worry about their feelings if you block them please! because if it's scareing you just block them!! i have done it heaps on other websites when i was about 10 and i just thought:

" they deserve it because they were scary "

plus in school at that time ( in year 5 ) my teacher said " if anyone is scareing you, tell an adult, your parent are the best." so take my advice, Peachie and stay safe online....
:huggle: Hope i helped you! :huggle:
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steffne Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2010  Professional Artist
NOOO BUT I """MUST"""" FIND OUT (in great depth) WHO IS YOUR FAVOURITE JONAS BROTHER?!!11
WHY MUST YOU KEEP ME WAITING. *stomps feet*

Paha, but in all seriousness you made the right choice. :hug:
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kawii99 Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
That's awful. (Though I hope I'm not one! XD) If I was one, then, I'm SOOO sorry!
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:iconprincess-peachie:
Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2010
NOOOOO! ;o; It's not you! I really hope this journal didn't make people paranoid! :glomp:
The problems mainly happened through Notes/Private Messages.
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kawii99 Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2010
Ohhh. Wh-what did they say?? :fear:
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Aug 2, 2010
Lots of things. Lotttssss. xD So many things I couldn't keep up.
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kawii99 Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2010
Oh no. :noes: :iconlenkagamineplz: You know Len Kagamine? =D
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KrazyRabidRakkoon Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Student General Artist
I'm very sorry to hear that. I doubt this, but, if I am one of them, I can lay off.

You might not even have time to reaspond, or even read this. But, you can have one nice little chat with them and casually explain that that was all your time you had for chit-chatting. Tell them you have more watchers than themselves and you can't even respond to all of them. If they keep blabbing on even after that. i;m afraid you'll have to block them. Good luck!
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
LOL lord no not at all!! xD;; Gee I hope I didn't make anyone paranoid. :cuddle: No these people were mainly problems through Notes/Private Messages. Thank you so much for your help, also. :hug:

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy paste)
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KrazyRabidRakkoon Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010  Student General Artist
*sigh* Aw well. Some thing just have to happen I guess. :hug:
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RainbowSunlight Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010
D: I'm sorry to hear that Peachie :hug:
If they are scaring you just tell them how you feel I'm sure they'll understand ^^
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
:hug:

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy paste)
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RainbowSunlight Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
Don't be sad Peachie D: :hug: On the bright side your free from them now ^^
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SilentLeona Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
I am very sorry to hear that dear :( !! last year I had someone like that and I kept blocking her :( she was really crazy and obsessed even though my art is all crap :( but we had alot in common that was really scary and made her come after me and look for me in every site she joins ^^; !! Tell the people that are over the top that you are not comfortable with this and I am sure they will understand ^^ :hug: I hope everything will be ok :3 !!
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
Wow. That is absolutely terrifying! O__O I can't imagine what it would be like to have someone chase you around the web like that. :(:(:( :huggles: (and shush don't say things like that about your art!) Is everything okay now? :hug:

In my case- unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy paste)
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SilentLeona Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
It was very scary and annoying I am glad it's over now :3 !! hehehehe thank youuu :blushes: thank youuu heheheh ^^ I wont say that again :hug: !! Block is a good idea :hug: I hope you wont get bothered again :hug: it's ok about the copy and paste :D !! ^^ keep up your great work ^^ !!
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2010
:hug: Oh good, I'm glad to hear! D'awww take care. :cuddle:
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SilentLeona Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you ^^ :hug: take care you too :huggle: !! God bless you !!
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jessiegurl44 Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010
Hm.... I think you should just relax... and like someone else said " If you are on their watch-list they will be reading this" Hopefully they are not maniacs who won't understand... jk. It will all be okay ^^
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
Thank you so much hun. :) :heart:

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy paste)
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AoiTanuki Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Student Digital Artist
Yes, block them. They may be nice people, but you just don't have the time. I'm sure they'll understand, and then you'll be free! :phew:
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
Thank you so much- yeah, I'm going to have to block them. They just don't seem to understand. :/
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PichiPachiPaw Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Student General Artist
This is most definitely NOT a good situation.
But you know you can turn to me if you need help with this, right? That's what friends are for :hug:.
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
D'awww thanks honey. :) :hug: :heart:
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PichiPachiPaw Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010  Student General Artist
Your welcome :huggle:
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SugareeSweets Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, if they are obsessed with you chances are they might have on their watch list and are reading this at this very instant. :) I think it quite gets the point across.

Good luck girl!
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
I'm not sure if it's really just an obsession with talking to me. xD And yes this did see my journal, I guess that was my intention- seeing as I have had more than one person being like this with me.

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy paste)

Thanks a bunch btw, hun! :cuddle:
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Imzy Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
I'd block 'em if your getting uncomfortable. They'll get over it, I'm sure, and even if they don't it's not YOUR responsibility, you t'aint their shrink! You seem to have tried everything, you've been polite and tried to tell them you can't always reply. You gotta think-this is YOUR DA, don't let them ruin the fun and mian purpose of the site by sending you all these messages. LOVE YOU xxx
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
:hug: Will do honey. Your comment was really uplifting. Thanks baby. See you Friday! :glomp:
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Cute-the-cat Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
You could, to all these people, just copy and paste a message to them all (your own) , explaining that you are busy, and don't have time to answer fully, That is what one of the people I know does.
Hope this helps.
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
Thank you hun. I will definately do that in the future if the same thing happens again with somebody else. :hug:

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy paste myself, hahaha!!)
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Cute-the-cat Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
Okay, I'm glad that it helped!

Sometimes, thats the only answer though!
XD lol!
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AnnamaeTezuka Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
@_@ I'm sure you get a lot of messages, considering how good your artwork is. Maybe try to send brief replies? Or make it absolutely clear you can't always reply? @_@

What a pickle it sounds like you're in...
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
xD;; Thank you. :cuddle: :) :heart:

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy paste)
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AnnamaeTezuka Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. :(
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sORRYbUTnO Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah I recently just had a stalker troll I had to take care of. I was trying to be polite but she just kept yelling and making up reasons to flame me. Your situation is different, though. I agree with :icongoobernickle:. Just explain that you aren't as active and you cant always reply. You're a very popular person and they should understant that your inbox is probably overflown every day, so they cant always expect replies
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
I'm really sorry to hear about the stalker troll. I will never get why people get a kick out of trolling- anlthough, the worst ones are the people who don't even realize they're trolling, and just have really bad internet etiquette. :/ Thank you for your help hun :heart:

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy-paste)
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sORRYbUTnO Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010  Hobbyist Digital Artist
(it's okay)
I'm sorry to say, but there's just no help for some people. There's more than one way to troll and what they've been doing is one of them. You were right to block them. Dont feel bad :iconhuggleplz:
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2010
The thing is I don't think they were trolling. :/ I think they were just being genuine. Also I had no idea what age they were, they could have been under DA's age limit of 13 for all I know. But yeah the best thing was to block- thank you! :hug:
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sORRYbUTnO Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2010  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Dont mention it ^^ I'm always glad to help a fellow lolita
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mouldyCat Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010
i see you still didn't manage to become a bit more egoistic in some places where it might be needed ;) really, a "friendship" based on someone thinking (even if it only happens subconsciously) of you only as some sort of therapist is not gonna work out. sorry if this sounds kinda extreme..

just let them know what you think, as others said before, honesty should be the key to solving this problem <3
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
Hahaha!!! No... no you're right. xD Painfully right. :hug: Thank you honey, you made me chuckle a bit. (And I shouldn't be chuckling o_o)

Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-
^ (sorry for copy paste)
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Princesstekki Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
If they flare up, try sending them this journal maybe. I am sorry if this doesn't help, but i tried anyways.
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
Thank you- they indeed saw this journal. :/ This was mainly a message to a specific person, but I have had others like them.
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Princesstekki Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2010  Hobbyist General Artist
I hope they get the message after this.
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dolldivine Featured By Owner Jul 27, 2010  Professional General Artist
Can't go wrong with honesty. I don't think something along the lines of "I'm sorry but I can't continue corresponding with you." is out of line. You could give a reason, but Miss Manners says you don't have to, and it's better not to.. just be firm.
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Princess-Peachie Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2010
Unfortunately I don't think they will ever understand properly. :/ When I last messaged them they did the "I'm sorry I won't bother you anymore" guilt-trip, which never lasts. I have decided to block them, because I can see what is going to happen. Makes me sad though. -_-

Thank you very much for your help sweetie :heart:
(sorry for the copy-paste)
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